Anger Therapy in New York
Attachment-Based Individual Therapy at Our Kind Therapy
Anger is not the core problem.
For many people, anger emerges when something more vulnerable has been crossed, ignored, threatened, or silenced. Beneath anger often lives fear, grief, shame, longing, or pain that did not have a safe way to be expressed. When those emotions have nowhere to go, anger steps in to protect.
Many adults have learned to fear their anger. It may have been misunderstood, punished, or labeled as dangerous early on. Over time, this creates confusion. Anger can feel powerful but unsafe. Necessary but risky. Close to the truth, yet capable of rupture.
At Our Kind Therapy, we offer anger therapy in New York that treats anger as a meaningful emotional signal. Our work focuses on helping anger move, express, and settle in ways that support relational safety, both with yourself and with others.
How Anger Often Shows Up
Anger does not always look explosive.
Many people notice:
Sudden emotional outbursts or sharp reactions
Chronic irritability or resentment
Physical tension, heat, or pressure in the body
Suppressed rage that turns inward
Conflict in relationships or avoidance of closeness
Shame or fear about one’s own emotional intensity
Anger becomes painful not because it exists, but because it lacks a safe, contained pathway for expression.
We Treat the System, Not Just the Symptom
Anger is often not the root emotion. It is a response to something underneath that has not yet been acknowledged or processed.
In therapy, we focus on understanding:
What emotion is anger protecting
Where that emotion originated
When anger is approached with curiosity rather than control, it becomes a doorway rather than a danger. This is where anger therapy differs from surface-level anger management. The goal is not suppression. It is integration.
How Anger Begins to Shift
Anger begins to shift when it is expressed safely and with support.
Not acted out.
Nor suppressed.
Expressed.
As anger is allowed to move through the body, imagination, and relational experience, it naturally settles. What remains is clarity, energy, and access to the underlying vulnerable emotion.
Clients often notice:
Reduced reactivity
Increased emotional range
Greater self-trust
More stable connections in relationships
Anger does not disappear. It becomes integrated.
How We Work With Anger at Our Kind Therapy
Our work with anger is experiential, relational, and grounded in nervous system safety. Depending on what you need, therapy may draw from:
Intensive Short-Term Dynamic Psychotherapy (ISTDP) to safely access and release anger through focused emotional work
Somatic approaches to help anger move through the body without overwhelm or shutdown
Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP) to process anger within a secure relational container
We do offer anger management tools when helpful. These support choice and regulation in daily life. The deeper work happens when anger is fully experienced, understood, and allowed to resolve at its source.
What Anger Therapy Often Looks Like
Anger work in session may include:
Visualization techniques to express anger safely through imagination
Tracking bodily sensations as anger rises and releases
Supporting expression while maintaining relational safety
Exploring the vulnerable emotions beneath anger
Sessions are active and precise. The goal is not to get rid of anger, but to help it complete its cycle without harming the connection.
Coping Tools and Between-Session Support
We teach practical skills to help regulate anger between sessions, especially when intensity feels close to the surface. These tools create space for choice and safety in daily life.
Skills support stability. Experiential work creates lasting change.
When Anger Is Allowed to Move
So that’s why we say anger is not the problem. Disconnection is.
When anger is met with steadiness, curiosity, and care, it no longer needs to protect so aggressively. Relational safety increases. Self-trust returns. Emotional life expands.
If you are seeking anger therapy in New York and want work that honors emotional intensity without trying to suppress it, Our Kind Therapy offers a space where anger can be expressed, understood, and integrated without losing connection.
