Adult ADHD Therapy in New York
Attachment-Based Individual Therapy at Our Kind Therapy
Living with ADHD as an adult often means carrying far more weight than just a difficulty with focus.
Many adults with ADHD learned to adapt to fast-paced environments, constant demands for self-correction (made by other people), or are misunderstood on how their nervous system processes stimulation and attention. Over time, staying alert becomes a way of surviving. That constant readiness often comes at the expense of rest, ease, and self-trust.
By adulthood, ADHD is rarely just about attention. Many people are carrying years of pressure, shame, and the quiet loneliness of feeling different in a world that rewards sameness.
At Our Kind Therapy, we offer adult ADHD therapy in New York that focuses on restoring internal steadiness, self-acceptance, and dignity. Our work is not about forcing compliance or suppressing intensity. It is about helping you feel safe being exactly how you are, without having to abandon what makes you you.
How ADHD Often Shows Up in Adults
Adult ADHD shows up differently for everyone. Many people notice:
Difficulty sustaining focus or following through
Emotional intensity or quick reactivity
Impulsivity in thought, speech, or action
Disorganization in routines or relationships
Deep shame around productivity, consistency, or self-control
At the center of many ADHD experiences is a sense of isolation. Feeling different early on. Learning to hide it. Carrying that difference alone.
We Treat the System, Not Just the Symptom
ADHD-related distress is often sustained by two forces working together:
Environments that failed to accommodate how an ADHD nervous system works
Internal narratives of shame that developed through repeated misunderstanding
When difference is met with pressure to conform, self-monitoring replaces self-trust. Energy is spent on correction instead of creativity.
Therapy focuses on changing that internal relationship so your system no longer has to fight itself.
How ADHD Begins to Shift
Change often begins when a person starts to experience their way of being as capable rather than defective.
Early signs of shift may include:
Increased self-respect
A softening of shame-based self-talk
Greater trust in instincts and creativity
A sense of agency returning
As self-acceptance grows, regulation becomes more accessible. Focus follows safety, not force.
How We Work With Adult ADHD at Our Kind Therapy
Our work with adult ADHD is experiential, attachment-based, and deeply respectful of difference. Depending on your needs, therapy may draw from:
Play Therapy for Adults to restore spontaneity and creative expression
Narrative Therapy to dismantle shame-based identity stories
Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP) to support emotional processing and relational safety
These approaches help us work with the nervous system and self-concept directly, rather than managing behavior alone.
What ADHD Therapy Often Looks Like
Sessions often involve:
Exploring how anxiety or shame developed early
Naming and shifting internal narratives of self-rejection
Supporting creative, emotional, and relational expression
Practicing regulation without suppressing intensity
The goal is not to slow you into someone else’s rhythm, but to help you move through life with steadiness and self-trust.
Coping Tools and Between-Session Support
We offer tools to support focus, follow-through, and regulation between sessions. These are adapted to fit your nervous system rather than imposed.
Tools support daily life.
Relational work changes how you experience yourself.
Acceptance Restores Self-Trust
ADHD does not require fixing. It requires being understood.
When someone experiences being met at their pace, with steadiness and respect, self-rejection begins to soften. From there, self-trust returns. Creativity organizes. Focus becomes possible without force.
If you are seeking adult ADHD therapy in New York and want work that honors your nervous system rather than trying to reshape it, Our Kind Therapy offers a space where difference is met with care and dignity.
