Grief Therapy in New York
Attachment-Based Individual Therapy at Our Kind Therapy
If you know grief, you know that grief does not arrive politely.
It interrupts your life, your body, and your sense of continuity. One day something is there. A person. A future. A role. A version of yourself. Then it is not. The world keeps moving, but internally time slows, fractures, or feels suspended. You may feel heavy, numb, disoriented, raw, or strangely functional while something essential aches underneath.
At Our Kind Therapy, we offer grief therapy in New York for people navigating loss without a map. We do not organize grief into stages or timelines. We understand grief as what happens when attachment has nowhere to go, when love, meaning, or expectation has nowhere to land.
How Grief Often Shows Up
Grief rarely looks like sadness alone.
Many people notice:
Waves of longing that arrive without warning
Emotional numbness that feels unsettling or wrong
Exhaustion that sleep does not touch
Irritability, anger, or guilt without a clear cause
Difficulty caring about things that once mattered
A sense that life feels thinner or unfamiliar
Grief changes how you move through the world. It alters identity, priorities, and orientation. This is not pathology. It is a loss.
Why Grief Can Feel So Heavy
Grief becomes harder when it has to be carried alone.
Many people are taught, directly or indirectly, that grief should be managed, minimized, or handled well. They are encouraged to stay productive, composed, or positive. Over time, the nervous system tightens around what has not been given space.
Unexpressed grief often continues to affect the body, mood, and relationships. Therapy offers something different. A place where grief does not have to justify itself or make sense before it is allowed to exist.
How Grief Begins to Shift
Grief does not resolve. It integrates.
Before someone feels lighter, we often notice:
More access to emotion without collapse
Less pressure to perform strength
The ability to hold pain without panic
Moments of warmth or memory returning
A subtle reorientation toward life
Grief changes when it is allowed to move without being rushed or explained away.
How We Work With Grief at Our Kind Therapy
Our work with grief is relational, experiential, and paced. Depending on what you are carrying, therapy may draw from:
Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP) to support grief in the presence of another
Somatic approaches to allow emotion to move through the body
Narrative Therapy to integrate loss into meaning over time
We follow the grief, not a formula.
What Grief Therapy Often Looks Like
Grief work in session may include:
Sitting with emotion as it rises and falls
Making space for longing, anger, love, and regret
Noticing how loss has shaped identity
Allowing silence when words do not fit
Sessions are quiet when needed. Alive when they can be. Nothing is rushed.
Coping Tools and Between-Session Support
We offer gentle support to help you stay resourced while grief unfolds. These tools are not meant to distract from grief, but to help you remain steady enough to feel it. Support creates steadiness. Steadiness allows grief to move.
When Grief Has a Place to Land
Grief does not mean something is wrong with you. It means you loved, hoped, or invested deeply.
With the proper support, grief can become something you carry with tenderness rather than as a burden. It can inform your life without eclipsing it.
If you are seeking grief therapy in New York and want work that respects your loss without trying to fix it, Our Kind Therapy offers a space where grief does not have to be carried alone.
