Sex Therapy in NYC for Individuals and Couples
Sex-Informed, Attachment-Based Therapy at Our Kind Therapy
Sexuality is shaped by emotional safety, attachment history, stress, identity, and how the body experiences closeness. When intimacy starts to feel tense, distant, confusing, or heavy, it often reflects something meaningful happening beneath the surface.
Desire shifts over time. Communication around sex can become careful or strained. Bodies respond to connection in ways that do not always align with intention or expectation. For many people, sex begins to carry pressure, self-monitoring, avoidance, or silence instead of ease and mutual presence.
At Our Kind Therapy, we offer sex-informed therapy grounded in attachment, emotional safety, and the nervous system. Our work focuses on how connection, meaning, and lived experience shape intimacy. We support individuals and couples in understanding their sexual experience with care rather than judgment or performance.
We work with clients across New York City, including Manhattan and Brooklyn, both in person and virtually.
Who Sex Therapy Supports
Sex therapy supports people at many stages of life and relationships. Clients often come in when intimacy feels misaligned with who they are or how they want to relate. This includes people who are:
In long-term relationships where desire has changed or become quieter
Navigating differences in libido, pacing, or sexual needs
Feeling disconnected from their body, pleasure, or sexual confidence
Carrying anxiety, shame, or pressure related to sex
Wanting clearer communication around wants, limits, or curiosity
Experiencing changes in intimacy after stress, burnout, pregnancy, loss, illness, or trauma
Many clients are thoughtful, capable, and deeply invested in their relationships, yet unsure why intimacy feels more complicated than expected.
How Sex Therapy Supports Change
Sex therapy supports understanding, regulation, and connection. Sessions focus on how emotional context, relational dynamics, and nervous system responses shape sexual experience.
In therapy, clients often develop:
Reduced pressure and anxiety around intimacy
Clearer communication about needs, boundaries, and desire
Greater emotional presence during closeness
Increased self-trust and bodily awareness
A sense of intimacy that feels connected rather than performative
Over time, sex becomes less about managing outcomes and more about experiencing mutual presence and safety.
Couples Therapy and Sexual Intimacy
Within couples therapy, sex often reflects broader relational patterns. Desire, avoidance, resentment, or obligation can signal unmet emotional needs or misaligned expectations.
We support couples in:
Creating space for honest conversations about sex and desire
Understanding how emotional safety affects physical closeness
Reducing cycles of pressure, withdrawal, or conflict
Repairing moments of disconnection with care
Building intimacy that feels mutual, responsive, and grounded
Sexual intimacy is always held within the relationship context. Trust, communication, and repair are foundational.
Individual Therapy and Relationship to Sexuality
In individual therapy, sex-informed work often focuses on the relationship a person has with their body, desire, and sense of permission.
This may include:
Reconnecting with bodily experience at a pace that feels emotionally and physically safe
Understanding personal desire without comparison or external standards
Working through shame, fear, or internal pressure
Exploring identity, curiosity, or boundaries with support
This work is especially meaningful for people whose sexual experiences have been shaped by emotional overwhelm, inconsistent safety, or relational trauma.
Sex Therapy in New York City
We provide sex therapy for individuals and couples across New York City, including Manhattan and Brooklyn, with virtual sessions available throughout New York State.
If intimacy feels complicated, distant, or charged, therapy offers a space to understand what is happening and move toward greater connection with clarity and care.
