Infidelity & Trust Issues Therapy in NYC
Attachment-Based Therapy for Betrayal, Trust Rupture, and Repair at Our Kind Therapy
Infidelity can change how safe a relationship feels almost instantly. What once felt steady may suddenly feel uncertain. What once felt familiar may no longer feel reliable.
You may feel shocked, disoriented, or emotionally overwhelmed. Many people describe losing their internal footing, unsure what to trust, what is real, or how to steady themselves enough to think clearly. The rupture is not only about what happened, but about how deeply safety and meaning were disrupted.
At Our Kind Therapy, we work with infidelity and trust rupture as relational injuries rather than moral failures. Our focus is on restoring enough emotional safety for truth, clarity, and choice to return, whether that leads toward repair or toward a thoughtful separation. We work with individuals and couples across New York City, including Manhattan and Brooklyn, both in person and virtually.
What Infidelity and Trust Rupture Affect
Infidelity and trust breaches take many forms. Clients seek therapy for emotional affairs, physical affairs, online or digital infidelity, chronic lying, withheld truth, or boundary violations that eroded trust over time.
What these experiences share is not only betrayal, but disorientation. The nervous system loses its reference point. Memories are reexamined. The future feels unstable. Questions that once felt settled become uncertain.
Trust is not restored through reassurance alone or repeated explanations. It is rebuilt, or consciously released, through emotional safety, accountability, consistency, and repair over time.
How Trust Issues Often Show Up After Infidelity
After a rupture, many people experience:
Heightened vigilance or constant questioning
Emotional flooding followed by shutdown or numbness
Difficulty regulating anger, grief, or fear
Shame or self-blame
Fear of making the wrong decision about staying or leaving
These reactions are not signs of weakness. They reflect a nervous system responding to a sudden loss of safety and predictability.
Couples Therapy for Infidelity and Trust Repair
In couples therapy, the first priority is stabilization. Both partners need enough emotional safety to engage honestly without causing further harm.
Couples often arrive navigating patterns such as:
One partner seeks answers while the other feels overwhelmed or defensive
Attempts at reassurance that increase tension rather than reduce it
A pull between wanting closeness and needing distance
Therapy supports couples in:
Slowing conversations that feel emotionally overwhelming
Naming what happened without minimizing or escalating
Making room for grief, anger, and fear without retaliation
Understanding relational context without assigning blame
Exploring whether repair is possible and what it would truly require
Sometimes therapy supports rebuilding trust. Sometimes it supports separating with clarity and care. Both outcomes are approached with integrity. Therapy does not promise a specific result. It reduces harm and supports truth.
Individual Therapy for Infidelity and Trust Issues
Individual therapy offers space to process the emotional impact of betrayal without having to manage or protect anyone else’s reactions.
Clients often use individual therapy to:
Regulate overwhelming emotions
Rebuild internal trust and self-respect
Clarify boundaries and needs
Understand attachment patterns that shaped the relationship
Make decisions without panic or pressure
This work supports clients whether they are staying, leaving, or still deciding.
How We Work at Our Kind Therapy
Our approach to infidelity and trust rupture is attachment-based, experiential, and relational. We work with how betrayal affects safety, bonding, and emotional regulation.
Our work may include:
Attachment-focused therapy to understand how trust ruptures impact connection
AEDP-informed work to support emotional processing within safety
ISTDP-informed approaches to address avoidance or shutdown when present
Active relational presence, where pacing, containment, and clarity are held carefully
We move at the pace of healing rather than urgency. Therapy becomes a place where the nervous system can settle enough for truth to emerge without causing further injury.
What Healing Can Begin to Feel Like
With consistent support, many clients begin to experience:
Less emotional reactivity
Greater clarity about needs and limits
Increased tolerance for difficult conversations
A return of self-trust
A steadier internal sense of footing, even when outcomes remain uncertain
Healing does not require forgetting what happened. It involves restoring safety in the present, whether together or apart.
Begin Infidelity & Trust Therapy in New York City
If infidelity or trust issues have destabilized your relationship or sense of self, therapy can help you navigate this rupture with care and clarity.
We offer infidelity and trust therapy across New York City, including Manhattan and Brooklyn, with in-person and virtual options available.
