Additional FAQs
What type of therapy does Our Kind Therapy offer?
Our Kind Therapy offers attachment-based, experiential therapy that focuses on emotional safety, nervous system regulation, and real-time relational work.
Who is Our Kind Therapy best for?
We work with adults, couples, founders, professionals, creatives, and culturally complex individuals who want therapy that is emotionally deep, intelligent, and practical.
Is Our Kind Therapy evidence-based?
Yes. Our work integrates evidence-based modalities including AEDP, ISTDP, EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, IFS, Narrative Therapy, and attachment theory.
Do you offer individual and couples therapy?
Yes. We offer both individual therapy and couples therapy, including specialized work for co-founders, partners, and culturally complex relationships.
Where is Our Kind Therapy located?
We work with clients across New York City, including Manhattan and Brooklyn, and offer virtual therapy throughout New York State.
Do you work with high-performing or ambitious clients?
Yes. Many of our clients are high achievers, founders, professionals, and creatives navigating pressure, identity, and emotional sustainability.
Do I need therapy or am I just stressed?
Stress and the need for therapy are not opposites. Many people come to therapy because their stress has become constant, embodied, or emotionally narrowing. If your system rarely settles, if you feel reactive or depleted even when life looks “fine,” or if stress is shaping how you relate to yourself or others, therapy can help restore steadiness. At Our Kind Therapy, we work with stress not as a flaw, but as a signal that your nervous system has been carrying more than it can metabolize alone.
Is it normal to feel this overwhelmed all the time?
It is common, but not neutral. Ongoing overwhelm often means your internal capacity is being exceeded without enough recovery, support, or emotional processing. Therapy can help you understand what is driving that overwhelm and create conditions where your system can settle again. This kind of work is central to how we support clients at Our Kind Therapy.
How do you know when it’s time to see a therapist?
It’s often time when patterns repeat, when coping strategies stop working, or when effort no longer brings relief. You don’t need a crisis to begin therapy. Many people start when they feel stuck, disconnected, or internally strained. At Our Kind Therapy, we meet people at that early edge—before burnout or breakdown is the only option.
Is therapy worth it if my life looks fine?
Yes. Therapy is not only for visible dysfunction. Many people seek therapy because their external life is working while their internal world feels tense, disconnected, or unfulfilled. Therapy helps align how you feel with how you live. At Our Kind Therapy, we work with people whose lives function well but don’t feel sustainable or emotionally safe.
What are the signs I should talk to a therapist?
Common signs include persistent tension, emotional reactivity, difficulty resting, relationship strain, numbness, or a sense that you’re carrying too much alone. You may also feel unclear about what’s wrong, only that something feels off. Therapy helps make sense of these signals without forcing labels. This is a core part of our approach at Our Kind Therapy.
Am I overreacting or do I actually need help?
Needing support is not the same as overreacting. If something keeps returning, affecting your body, relationships, or sense of self, it deserves attention. Therapy offers a space to explore this without judgment or minimization. At Our Kind Therapy, we treat emotional signals as meaningful, not exaggerated.
Why do I feel anxious for no reason?
Anxiety often has a reason, even if it isn’t immediately conscious. It can come from unresolved stress, attachment patterns, unprocessed experiences, or a nervous system that hasn’t had room to settle. Therapy helps uncover and soften these drivers. This depth-oriented work is central to what we do at Our Kind Therapy.
Why can’t I relax even when nothing is wrong?
When relaxation feels unavailable, it usually means your nervous system has learned to stay alert. Therapy helps restore a sense of internal safety so rest becomes possible again. At Our Kind Therapy, we focus on helping your system learn that it no longer has to stay braced.
Why am I always on edge or irritable?
Chronic irritability often reflects accumulated stress, unmet needs, or emotional overload. Therapy helps identify what your system has been holding and creates room for regulation and relief. This kind of nervous-system-aware work is a foundation of our practice at Our Kind Therapy.
Why do I feel numb but still functional?
Emotional numbness is often a protective response. It allows you to keep going when feeling everything would be too much. Therapy helps gently restore emotional access without overwhelming you. At Our Kind Therapy, we move at a pace that respects how your system learned to cope.
Why do I overthink everything?
Overthinking is often an attempt to create safety through control or anticipation. Therapy helps shift from mental vigilance to embodied steadiness. At Our Kind Therapy, we work beneath the thoughts, not just on them, so your system doesn’t have to stay on high alert.
Why do I shut down emotionally?
Emotional shutdown usually develops as protection from overwhelm, disappointment, or relational pain. Therapy offers a relational environment where emotions can return safely. This kind of work—repairing emotional access within connection—is central to Our Kind Therapy.
Why do I keep repeating the same relationship patterns?
Relationship patterns often form early and repeat until they are understood and softened. Therapy helps you recognize these dynamics in real time and develop new ways of relating. At Our Kind Therapy, we focus on how patterns show up between people, not just why they exist.
Why do I pull away when things get close?
Pulling away can be a protective response rooted in attachment history or fear of loss of self. Therapy helps make closeness safer without forcing vulnerability. This balance between connection and autonomy is a common focus in our work at Our Kind Therapy.
Why do we fight about the same things?
Recurring conflicts usually reflect deeper unmet needs or misaligned emotional signals. Therapy helps slow these moments down so something new can happen. At Our Kind Therapy, we work with couples to repair connection, not just resolve topics.
Should we do couples therapy or break up?
Therapy can help clarify whether a relationship can grow or whether separation is the healthiest path. It offers a space to understand dynamics before making irreversible decisions. This kind of clarity work is something we support at Our Kind Therapy.
Is couples therapy too late?
It is rarely too late to understand what has been happening between you. Even when outcomes are uncertain, therapy can help people communicate honestly and reduce harm. At Our Kind Therapy, we work with couples at many stages of connection and rupture.
How do you fix communication in a relationship?
Communication improves when emotional safety improves. Therapy helps partners feel understood enough to speak honestly and listen without defensiveness. This is a core principle in how we approach relationship work at Our Kind Therapy.
Why do I feel lost even though I’m successful?
Success does not guarantee emotional alignment or meaning. Feeling lost often reflects an identity shift or a mismatch between internal values and external achievement. Therapy helps reconnect you to yourself beneath roles and expectations. This depth-oriented identity work is common at Our Kind Therapy.
Why don’t I feel like myself anymore?
Life transitions, stress, or prolonged adaptation can pull you away from yourself. Therapy helps restore continuity and self-recognition. At Our Kind Therapy, we help people reconnect with parts of themselves that went quiet under pressure.
How do I figure out who I am as an adult?
Adult identity often evolves through reflection, relationships, and choice rather than certainty. Therapy provides a space to explore this without urgency or judgment. This exploratory, grounding work is something we value at Our Kind Therapy.
Why does my life look good but feel empty?
Emptiness often signals disconnection—from self, meaning, or emotional expression. Therapy helps restore depth and resonance. At Our Kind Therapy, we work with this experience as a meaningful signal, not a failure.
How do people navigate identity changes?
Most people navigate identity change through relationships that allow reflection and safety. Therapy offers that relational mirror. This is part of how we support clients at Our Kind Therapy during transitions.
How do I set boundaries with my family without guilt?
Guilt often arises when boundaries challenge long-standing roles or expectations. Therapy helps you hold both care and self-protection. At Our Kind Therapy, we work with family systems in a way that respects connection without erasing autonomy.
Why do I feel torn between my family and my partner?
Feeling torn usually reflects competing attachment needs. Therapy helps clarify values and reduce internal conflict. This complexity is something we regularly work with at Our Kind Therapy.
How do you navigate cultural expectations in relationships?
Navigating culture in relationships requires respect, clarity, and emotional safety. Therapy helps partners understand each other’s frameworks without forcing assimilation or sacrifice. This nuanced work is part of our approach at Our Kind Therapy.
How do immigrant families affect mental health?
Immigrant family systems often carry resilience alongside pressure, responsibility, and silence around emotional needs. Therapy helps make space for both gratitude and impact. At Our Kind Therapy, we approach this work with care and complexity.
Why do I feel responsible for everyone?
Over-responsibility often develops in response to early family dynamics or emotional gaps. Therapy helps redistribute emotional labor and restore balance. This is a common focus in our work at Our Kind Therapy.
What type of therapy is right for me?
The right therapy feels emotionally attuned, safe, and responsive—not rigid or one-size-fits-all. Many people benefit from relational and attachment-based approaches that work with lived experience rather than surface symptoms. At Our Kind Therapy, we tailor the work to the person, not the model.
How do I choose a therapist?
Look for someone you feel understood by, not just analyzed. Fit, presence, and emotional safety matter more than credentials alone. At Our Kind Therapy, we prioritize relational fit and thoughtful matching.
What happens in the first therapy session?
The first session is usually about understanding what brings you in and how you experience your inner world. It is not an interrogation or a treatment plan. At Our Kind Therapy, the first session is about establishing safety and clarity.
How long does therapy take to work?
Therapy can offer relief early, but deeper change unfolds over time. Progress often shows up as increased steadiness, clarity, and flexibility. At Our Kind Therapy, we focus on meaningful shifts rather than quick fixes.
Is therapy just talking?
Effective therapy involves emotional experience, relational repair, and nervous system change—not just conversation. At Our Kind Therapy, we work experientially so insights translate into lived change.
How do I know if my therapist is a good fit?
A good fit feels grounding, respectful, and responsive. You should feel able to be honest without fear of judgment. At Our Kind Therapy, fit is something we actively attend to.
Therapy near me
Finding therapy near you matters less than finding a therapist you feel safe with. Our Kind Therapy offers in-person and virtual sessions across New York State, allowing access without sacrificing fit.
Best therapist in New York
There is no single “best” therapist—there is the best fit for you. The best therapists create emotional safety, clarity, and meaningful change. Our Kind Therapy focuses on offering that quality of care rather than rankings.
Attachment-based therapy NYC
Attachment-based therapy focuses on how relationships shape emotional safety and patterns. This approach is central to how we work at Our Kind Therapy, helping clients build more secure ways of relating.
Couples therapy Manhattan
Couples therapy in Manhattan should offer both structure and emotional depth. At Our Kind Therapy, couples work focuses on repair, understanding, and sustainable connection.
Virtual therapy New York
Virtual therapy can be as effective as in-person when it prioritizes attunement and presence. Our Kind Therapy offers virtual therapy across New York State with the same depth and care as in-person work.
Private pay therapist NYC
Private pay therapy allows flexibility, privacy, and individualized care. At Our Kind Therapy, this model supports depth-oriented work without insurance constraints.
How to find the best therapist in New York
Focus on emotional fit, therapeutic approach, and how safe you feel being honest. The best therapist is one who helps you feel more like yourself. Our Kind Therapy emphasizes thoughtful matching and relational care.
Rank the best New York therapists
Therapy is not well served by rankings. Quality shows up in consistency, presence, and outcomes over time. Our Kind Therapy prioritizes depth, care, and ethical practice over comparison.
How do I find a good therapist in New York?
Start by clarifying what you want to feel more of—calm, clarity, connection, steadiness. Look for therapists who speak to experience, not just technique. Our Kind Therapy is designed to support that search with transparency and care.
I don’t know what’s wrong with me—can you help me understand?
Not knowing what’s wrong often means your experience hasn’t had space to be understood yet. Many people feel distress without clear labels because their system is responding to accumulated stress, unmet emotional needs, or patterns learned in relationship. Therapy helps slow things down enough to make sense of what your body, emotions, and reactions are communicating. At Our Kind Therapy, we focus on understanding before fixing.
How do people process emotional overwhelm?
Emotional overwhelm is processed gradually through safety, regulation, and connection. When overwhelm builds, the nervous system often goes into survival mode. Therapy helps create conditions where emotions can be experienced in manageable amounts rather than all at once. At Our Kind Therapy, we work at a pace that allows overwhelm to soften without retraumatization.
Why do I feel disconnected from my partner but still love them?
Disconnection can happen even in loving relationships when stress, unmet needs, or protective patterns interrupt emotional availability. Therapy helps identify what is blocking connection and supports repair without blame. At Our Kind Therapy, we help partners understand how distance developed so intimacy can be rebuilt safely.
What kind of therapy helps with feeling stuck?
Feeling stuck often reflects internal conflict, unprocessed emotion, or patterns that no longer fit your current life. Therapies that focus on emotional experience and relational dynamics tend to be most effective. At Our Kind Therapy, we work with what is alive beneath the stuckness.
How do people heal attachment wounds?
Attachment wounds heal through new relational experiences that feel safe, consistent, and responsive. Therapy offers a structured relationship where trust, repair, and emotional expression can be practiced and restored. At Our Kind Therapy, attachment-based work is central, allowing healing to happen through relationship rather than insight alone.
What is relationships and intimacy therapy?
Relationships and intimacy therapy focuses on how people connect, communicate, attach, and feel emotionally safe with others and themselves. It addresses patterns such as conflict, emotional distance, trust issues, sexual disconnection, and difficulty sustaining closeness—both in individual and couples therapy.
Do I need to be in a relationship to start intimacy therapy?
No. Many people seek intimacy-focused therapy individually to understand relationship patterns, attachment wounds, communication habits, or fear of closeness before or outside of a relationship.
How do I know if relationship therapy is right for me?
If you notice recurring patterns in dating, difficulty staying emotionally connected, ongoing conflict, fear of vulnerability, or loneliness even in relationships, relationship-focused therapy can help.
Is relationship therapy only for couples?
No. Relationship therapy at Our Kind Therapy is offered to individuals and couples. Individual therapy often focuses on attachment, relational patterns, and emotional safety, while couples therapy works directly with the relationship dynamic.
What makes Our Kind Therapy different for relationship and intimacy work?
Our Kind Therapy specializes in attachment-based, experiential, relational therapy. We work with emotional patterns as they show up between people, not just through insight or advice. Therapy is direct, emotionally attuned, and grounded in real relational change.
What issues do couples therapy address?
Couples therapy can support:
Communication breakdowns
Repetitive conflict cycles
Emotional distance or resentment
Trust issues or infidelity
Sexual intimacy concerns
Cultural, religious, or family-of-origin differences
Life transitions such as parenthood, career changes, or blended families
Does couples therapy help if we’re not sure we want to stay together?
Yes. Couples therapy can help partners gain clarity, communicate honestly, and make decisions with respect and emotional safety—whether that leads to staying together or separating thoughtfully.
How does couples therapy work at Our Kind?
Couples therapy focuses on understanding relational patterns, slowing down reactivity, building emotional safety, and strengthening secure attachment. Therapists actively engage with both partners to interrupt unhelpful dynamics and support repair.
Can couples therapy help after infidelity?
Yes. Therapy can help couples process the rupture, rebuild trust through consistency and accountability, and decide together what repair or next steps look like.
Why do we keep having the same arguments?
Repeated conflict often reflects underlying emotional needs, fears, or attachment patterns rather than surface-level disagreements. Therapy helps identify and shift these deeper dynamics.
Can therapy help us communicate better without blaming each other?
Yes. Therapy focuses on emotional language, accountability, and understanding—helping partners speak honestly without escalating conflict or withdrawing.
Why do I keep repeating the same relationship patterns?
Dating patterns often stem from early attachment experiences and nervous system responses to closeness, conflict, or uncertainty. Therapy helps make these patterns conscious and changeable.
Can therapy help with commitment issues or fear of intimacy?
Yes. Therapy supports clients in understanding fears around closeness, autonomy, and vulnerability—without forcing decisions or timelines.
Does Our Kind Therapy work with dating burnout or dating fatigue?
Yes. We regularly work with clients experiencing exhaustion from modern dating, including app fatigue, emotional disengagement, or confusion about what they want.
What counts as a trust issue in a relationship?
Trust issues can include infidelity, secrecy, inconsistency, emotional withdrawal, or repeated breaches of agreement. Therapy helps partners understand the impact and rebuild safety.
Can trust be rebuilt after betrayal?
Trust can be rebuilt when there is accountability, emotional responsiveness, and consistency over time. Therapy supports this process by creating structure and emotional safety.
Do you offer sex therapy?
Our Kind Therapy offers sex-informed, attachment-focused therapy. We work with emotional, relational, and psychological aspects of sexual intimacy, including desire discrepancies, shame, anxiety, and identity exploration.
Is sex therapy only for couples?
No. Individual therapy can address sexual concerns related to self-worth, trauma, identity, or emotional safety, as well as relational experiences.
Do you offer LGBTQIA+ affirming therapy?
Yes. Our Kind Therapy is LGBTQIA+ affirming and works with individuals and couples across identities, orientations, and stages of exploration, including queer identity, coming out, and long-term relationships.
Can therapy help if one partner is exploring their sexuality?
Yes. Therapy supports individuals and couples navigating exploration with honesty, care, and emotional safety—without pressure to disclose or define prematurely.
Can therapy help with cultural or religious differences in relationships?
Yes. We work with couples and individuals navigating intercultural, interfaith, and family-of-origin differences, helping partners build shared meaning without erasing identity.
Do you work with blended families?
Yes. We support blended families in many forms, including stepfamilies, adoptive families, LGBTQIA+ families, bicultural families, and co-parenting systems.
Do you offer breakup or divorce counseling?
Yes. Therapy can support individuals and couples through breakups, divorce, and conscious uncoupling, helping process grief, identity shifts, and emotional repair.
Can therapy help with conscious uncoupling?
Yes. We help partners separate with clarity, dignity, and emotional care—especially when children or shared systems are involved.
Do you offer relationship therapy in NYC?
Yes. We offer relationship and intimacy therapy in New York City, including Manhattan and Brooklyn.
Do you offer virtual sessions?
Yes. We offer both in-person and virtual therapy options.
How do I get started?
You can begin by scheduling a consultation to discuss your needs and determine the best therapeutic fit.
What is mental health resilience?
Mental health resilience is the nervous system’s ability to recover, regulate, and return to emotional safety after stress, pressure, or disruption. It reflects how well a person can stay connected to themselves during difficulty and regain steadiness afterward, rather than remaining in chronic activation or shutdown.
How does therapy help with anxiety and stress?
Therapy helps by restoring nervous system safety, addressing underlying attachment patterns, and reducing chronic emotional activation rather than only managing surface symptoms. This allows anxiety and stress responses to soften at their root, not just feel temporarily controlled.
Can therapy help with burnout and emotional exhaustion?
Yes. Therapy addresses the emotional and relational roots of burnout, including pressure, self-worth, over-responsibility, and rigidity. As these patterns are understood and softened, energy, clarity, and capacity often begin to return.
Do you treat ADHD, OCD, and panic attacks?
Yes. We work with ADHD, OCD, panic attacks, and emotional overwhelm using experiential and attachment-based approaches that focus on regulation, safety, and how symptoms are held in the nervous system, not just behavioral control.
Is trauma therapy part of mental health resilience work?
Yes. Trauma work is central to restoring resilience and may include approaches such as AEDP, ISTDP, EMDR, and somatic therapy. Trauma therapy focuses on restoring internal safety, emotional access, and flexibility.
How long does it take to feel better in therapy?
Many clients notice early shifts as emotional safety increases and reactivity decreases. Deeper and more lasting change unfolds over time and depends on personal history, current stressors, and therapeutic goals.
What is culturally informed therapy?
Culturally informed therapy considers family systems, collectivistic values, identity, religion, and intergenerational patterns as integral to healing. It recognizes that emotional experience does not exist outside of cultural context.
Do you work with immigrant and first-generation clients?
Yes. We specialize in working with clients navigating immigrant, bicultural, and collectivistic family dynamics, including loyalty, responsibility, guilt, and identity negotiation.
Can therapy help with family pressure and expectations?
Yes. Therapy helps clients understand inherited expectations, reduce internalized guilt, and develop boundaries that honor both personal needs and family relationships.
What is intergenerational trauma?
Intergenerational trauma refers to emotional, relational, and survival patterns passed down through families that shape identity, safety, and self-worth, often without being consciously named.
Do you work with couples from different cultural or religious backgrounds?
Yes. We work with couples navigating cultural, religious, and family-of-origin differences with respect, emotional depth, and an emphasis on mutual understanding rather than forced compromise.
Is therapy about rejecting culture or family?
No. Our work focuses on integration—honoring cultural roots and family bonds while creating a life that fits who you are today, without erasure or disconnection.
What is entrepreneurship and career therapy?
Entrepreneurship and career therapy supports individuals navigating ambition, pressure, leadership, identity shifts, transitions, and emotional sustainability in demanding professional lives.
Do you work with founders and business owners?
Yes. We work with founders, co-founders, executives, creatives, and professionals across industries who are navigating responsibility, growth, and internal pressure.
Can therapy help with burnout in high achievers?
Yes. Therapy helps reduce chronic pressure, restore emotional and physical energy, and rebuild a healthier relationship with ambition, productivity, and self-worth.
What are co-founder issues, and can therapy help?
Co-founder issues often include trust, communication breakdowns, power dynamics, and unresolved conflict. Therapy can support repair, clarification, or respectful separation when needed.
Do you offer therapy for work–life balance?
Yes. We help clients define what balance actually means for them and build lives where ambition, rest, intimacy, and presence can coexist without chronic depletion.
Can therapy help with imposter syndrome and pressure?
Yes. Therapy helps rebuild self-trust, reduce fear of failure, and stabilize identity during periods of growth, visibility, or transition.
Is this therapy only for entrepreneurs?
No. This work is for anyone navigating demanding careers, leadership roles, or professional identity shifts, regardless of job title or industry.